Boundaries and how to set them

So the Lord has been wonderfully leading me along the way I should go. Just as his word says in
Psalm 16:11 "You will make known to me the path of life. In your presence is fullness of joy. In your right hand are pleasures forever." 

I am so thankful for his leading me to the right sermons and teachings at just the right time by experienced Christian counselors and ministers.

Joyce Meyer was the first one who spoke directly from God's heart to mine about having good boundaries.

Then God lead me to another source on YouTube. His name is Patrick Doyle. He taught so profoundly on "Setting Boundaries In Relationships".

Just like the above verse says I felt so much joy. It was like I dug up long lost treasure on a deserted island. An Island I have always wanted to get to yet did not quite know how. The island where the confident people live who do not put up with people treating them poorly. It was not a place I ever thought I could reach, trapped in the insecurities of my past and held captive by my fears of what others think about me. Sadly this is the way most "bullied survivors" live. But the Lord is always leading us to Him. He has a better way and it is oh so glorious.
This SOUL treasure uplifted my soul and set my weary spirit free. I was glued to the screen watching this man speak with such conviction and boldness. He spoke so well and straight to the point. He was practical yet firm. He spoke with great straight and conviction form years of experience and seeking the Lord himself.

He was honest in saying boundaries cause a risk at first, but in the end they will lead to a solution.

Patrick said either 2 things can happen after a boundary is set;

1. It can move towards health and respect in the relationship

2. It can move towards it no longer being a relationship that you are willing to be in.

He went on to say "either way you get what you need when you set a boundary. You are no longer mistreated . This will stop them from hurting you."

Amen. Sweet VICTORY! I could use some of that freedom for my tender heart.

So he summed it all up with this
"Boundaries will either;

SPEED up the healing of a relationship
                                OR
SPEED up the destruction of it."

So how do we set boundaries? I highly recommend you watch his clip. I took pages and pages of notes. I almost danced around my house in delight with every word he spoke.

I hope you enjoy it and find some sweet soul treasures for your soul.