Christian "magical thinking"

I just heard this awesome quote from Patrick Doyle on how Christians often think this common
Thought "it will all work out".

That saying used to bug me when my mum said it.

I mean she's right sometimes it really will all work out and you just need to wait on God and trust him to work on your behalf in whatever difficulty your may be facing.

Other times however, it's really just ignoring the problem. Otherwise known as denial.

Today I had to confront a neighbour over his recent bad behaviour.

My therapist encouraged me to do this. I've had way too many bullies walk all over me and it feels so good to not be that little girl stuck in the middle of home abuse, classroom, church or community bullying.

I have a voice now my therapist reminded me. I can make "safe" choices. I am not stuck with any bully anymore.

Recently my neighbour came over drunk. He sat on our field while our other neighbours were having a party. We have five acres and honestly did not know who he was at first.

We were all concerned. But it got worse once we identified him. He came stumbling over to our yard "drunk as a skunk".

He honestly looked ridiculous. I began to feel fearful. Drunk people trigger my PTSD. As many times my bullies including my brother and uncle were drunk when they emotionally wounded me.

He began to argue with my husband and I over petty things like gardening and when we should put our kids to bed.

He pulled a dead chipmunk out of his back pack in front of my kids telling us his dog killed it.

Ah not ok! My mummy bear alarm bells are going off now.

Needless to say his dog often comes over with him unannounced and we have free range chickens and cats to think of.

This guy really needed some boundaries! Since we did not have any physical boundaries around our farm like a fence I had to do it verbally.

I decided to write him a letter. Rather than comfront him in person. I took Patrick Doyle's advice on this one. Then I did not have to be present for his reaction. Plus hopefully he could read it while sober.

I told him he was NOT to come over unannounced, bring his dog or come drunk.

I have my kid's and animal's to protect. Plus myself. Jeremy sometimes goes out of town for a few weeks for work. So I did not want him coming over while I was alone with my kid's.

It felt good to be honestly firm. To no longer be a doormat.

As Patrick Doyle says.."if you don't deal with the conflict in the relationship it's not going to get better on it's own".

I think I am really coming out of this so called
"Christian magical thinking". Sadly this is so common in churches and either preached or implied from the pulpit.
Patrick referred to these common statements.
"The Lord will fix it"  or
"The Lord will take care of it".
Which is really spiritualising denial.

I highly recommend Patrick Doyle's talk on
You Tube called "Difficult Relationships".

It set me free to confront in love when needed!